For Tracie...

Ha! This sounds like me at the last Gathering. I've been at my job for 11 months and honestly when I think about how much I fuss about stupid people, I feel little stupid myself. It took me a while honestly. I felt justified and RIGHT. I didn't want to deal with people at my job who refused to try to help themselves instead of contacting me for the QUICK answer. I was tired of calling and following up with people to get the data I needed that was holding up mountains of work on my end.

One day last week I just decided to stop it. It was taking me more energy to hate the stupid people than to actually try to be helpful; perish the thought. It was a challenge at first, believe me. I had one caller ask me the cost of tuition. After I told him and showed him where to find the information online, he asked me at least two other times the same question but in a different way. Finally I said, "Sir, the cost of tuition will be the same each time you ask me." I mean really. One thing I learned, through working with people especially students, is we all at some point didn't know something about something. I LEARNED how to be resourceful. I didn't just wake up and suddenly know how to do all the things I can today. I'm sure at some point in my life I was that student, that customer, that stupid person. And someone had to help me. I didn't always get the nicest person but boy when I did find someone who was helpful and resourceful, I was so grateful and felt better about not KNOWING.

About a month ago I was online paying a bill. I couldn't find the link I needed but I knew it was there because I had used the website before. I called customer service, got transferred 3 time and was on hold for 6 1/2 minutes. Finally when the rep. came to the line I was angry, thinking they changed the site without telling me. I explained the problem and when he politely said, "scroll down", I felt so silly I just wanted to hang up the phone. I must have looked at it ten times and didn't even realize it was right in my face the entire time. Now I'm not sure what he had to say about me when he hung up the phone but while he was helping me he was the kindest, most patient person I had spoken to all day.

So I say all that to make this point; be patient with yourself and with others. Changing jobs in this economy may not be the best thing. And who knows, you may jump out of the skillet just to find yourself sizzling in a frying pan. Find what you do like about your job and if there is nothing then make it up. Communicate what you need from your supervisor and colleagues to be successful and happy in your current environment. You never know, you just might get it. I DID!

Happily,

Ailia

Hello Caryn,

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Tomiko

Dear Tracie,

It's nice to hear from you. I'm sorry to hear that your job is causing you stress right now.

Since it sounds like you aren't in a position to leave your job, I suggest you "create" the environment you'd like to exist. By that I mean, it's up to you how things affect you. While you cannot control the behavior of others, you CAN control how it affects you. It may take practice, but you can develop a "shield of light" that cannot be dimmed by any person or situation.

Choose happiness in the midst of chaos. Choose truth in the midst of uncertainty. Choose your light in the midst of darkness.

Again, it is up to YOU how "negative" people and behavior affects you. YOU are in control.

Blessings to you and congrats on going back to school. That's the way to create the existence you desire. Keep up the great work! : )

Tomiko

Dearest Goddess Sister Margot,

Thank you for your beautiful note! My spirit is smiling because you are on the road to your true SELF. I know from personal experience that finding oneself is not always easy. We have to really be committed to unleashing our truth, and you my friend, are one committed Goddess! As you continue your journey, you should rest a bit easier knowing that your Goddess sisters and I will hold you up every step of the way.

Keep Shining Girl!!!

Tomiko